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Ten tips for a smoother bedtime with young children.
Bedtime can be one of the most stressful times of day. Everyone is tired, your children may all be needing a lot of connection from you, at the same time, and your well of patience has run dry.
Combining the needs of different age ranges, from little babies, to manic bouncing toddlers, to older children, who have patiently been waiting for a little one on one time with you is really tough.
Routines have never worked for my family. I remember consulting those sleep charts with my eldest, wondering why he needed at least 2 hours less than the specified amounts. He’s 9 now and still needs a lot less than the others. Any time I tried, what I thought would be a really lovely routine, it just caused me and my son a whole lot of stress. I didn’t even attempt it with my younger ones. (I’ve always been secretly jealous of those who nail this though.)
I’ve muddled through, learning so much along the way, and now our bedtimes are actually really rather lovely and enjoyable for us all.
Here’s my 10 practical tips that have helped me through the tough times.
1. Accept that life with young children is messy. They cry, they shout, they fight, they embarrass you in public. Releasing the need to make everything perfect is so freeing, and often once you do this, everything clicks into place.
2. Be flexible, think outside the box. If they don’t want to put their PJs on, do they really need to? If they’re clearly really tired but don’t want to go to bed, would they enjoy going for a drive? Often this will relax them enough to fall asleep in the car then you can carry them to bed
3. Be playful and inventive. If they don’t want to brush their teeth can you make it into a game? Searching for their favourite characters in their mouth was always popular when mine were younger. Chewable brushes helped as a last resort when they couldn’t be tempted. We often brush our children’s teeth whilst they’re watching TV. We never forced them, and now they are all very happy and willing to brush their teeth.
4. Fill your metaphorical cup. Take 5 minutes (or longer if you can), to meditate, do Yoga, deep breaths, a Crystal layout, make your own Crystal Aura spray with calming essential oils and spritz it all over you, walk barefoot in the garden, anything that works to calm and relax you, before bedtime. Make sure you’ve had a snack and a drink too, to avoid any Hangry parent tantrums.
5. If you have a baby, try baby wearing. I’ve spent many an evening, with a baby strapped on my front, a toddler on my back, and reading a story to older ones, whilst bouncing up and down. Make sure you take a selfie to remind yourself how awesome you are.
6. Go with the flow, and constantly adapt to changing needs. There’s a tricky age somewhere between 1 and 3 years, where daytime napping goes crazy. If they nap in the day, then they don’t sleep until midnight, if they don’t they have meltdowns all afternoon. It’s a difficult time. It does get better, it really does, but navigating that time with an air of acceptance makes it so much easier. Self-care is so important at these times.
7. Get the crazy manic hour done before you get too tired. My children get a wild burst of energy shortly before they get tired. This can be so much fun, and a really lovely way to connect in the evenings, as long as you aren’t exhausted. Cushion fights, jumping on the trampoline, playful wrestling, running races (not against each other- that always ends in tears, I use my phone stop watch and they try and beat their personal best)
8. Prepare for transitions. Some children find transitions really hard. The trick is to always have something to look forward to. Instead saying it’s time for bed, try lets go and read a story (always good to have a new exciting one from the library to look forward to), or lets light a bedtime candle, have a Massage, or Crystal healing. Basically anything involving you being with them.
9. Talk with them about bedtimes. What would they like to do before they go to bed. How can you make it more enjoyable for you both?
10. Create a relaxing environment in the bedroom. My children all have their own little Crystal Angels by their beds, Dream Catchers, herbal pillows, a calming Crystal Grid. I’ve mastered the art of reading whilst simultaneously giving mini- foot massages with Lavender Oil.
I hope you’ve found some of these ideas helpful. I’d love to hear yours too, I’m always learning!!
With Love and Crystal Blessings
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Green Crystals For Spring
If any colour epitomises the essence of Spring it is Green. Green is the colour of the fresh new shoots of Spring bursting into life in our Gardens, Woodlands and Parks. Green is nature, growth, expansion, and equilibrium. It is the colour of our Heart Chakra, bringing harmony, balance, hope and joy into our lives. It’s also my daughter’s favourite colour, she was a little Spring baby.
I absolutely love Spring. I welcome it into our family home, by always making sure we have plenty of fresh Daffodils, Narcissus and Tulips inside. We have a Seasons table in our main living area. I use a colourful silk over a table (hand dyed by Arwen Makes we have a different colour for each season). On top I place a couple of seasonal books – this month we have Spring ( a picture only board book by Gurda Muller), and a bird watching book. I decorate it with little wooden woodland animals, and last month I splashed out on some beautiful felt Spring Flower Fairies. We also add anything we gather on our days outs and walks. I’m not too anal about it, once we had a chip on it from a pub lunch that my son wanted to add (was quite amazing as it never got mouldy).
To be honest the children aren’t that impressed by the Seasons table. They prefer playing Halo lego, or shooting each other with Nerf Guns. But, I like bringing beauty and nature into our house, and I’m sure this will imprint upon their memories of their cosy childhood in some way.
I think it’s really important, that we keep our connection to the things we love, even if our children don’t share it. I lost mine for a couple of years, feeling if the children weren’t interested I wouldn’t bother. By doing this I felt lost who I was. I’m very happy to report I have found myself again. It was a lovely awakening for me to see I could love and support my children’s interests and passions as well as my own.
One thing we all enjoy is collecting Wild Garlic from the woods. I love making a Risotto and adding Wild Garlic in place of Spinach with masses of Parmesan (or Gran Padano from Lidl). And Wild Garlic Pesto too (which is the most spectacular shade of green) – which freezes really well and I dollop onto pasta all year round. Naturally, I am the only person in the house who actually eats it….
It’s no coincidence that Wild Garlic, Nettles and Dandelions are all at their best in Spring, and all wonderful natural tonics to detoxify and strengthen our body after the excesses of Winter. Nature gives us what we need, when we need it. Read about my Spring detox here. I have dandelions aplenty in my garden, so add them to my juices or tea. I love Susun Weed’s books for inspiration and recipes for making our own herb or weed infusions.
Green Crystals (Part 2)
Green Crystals all have similar and overlapping energies and benefits for us. Detoxifying, connection with Nature, hope, optimism and balance are all strong themes. I wrote about Peridot, Green Aventurine, Jade, Bloodstone, and Green Moss Agate in my last blog-Which Crystals Support Your Spring Detox.
Here’s some Green Crystals for You
1.Emerald – the birth stone for May, emanates the beautiful Green Ray of the heart Chakra. This connects you to the frequency of Divine love, bringing the energy of gentleness hope, love and compassion (Naisha Ahsian). It opens us to love, joy and abundance and is a great tonic for mind, body and spirit (Sue Weaver). It is calming, cleansing and harmonising.
2.Seraphinite is a slightly more glamorous trade name for clinochore. Naisha Ahsian writes
“on a physical level , it seems to act like fertiliser on grass, causing a flush of pure healing energy. Seraphinite’s purpose is to bring Light into the body, expressing it through us as glowing health”.
Michael Gienger writes
“Seraphinite has a reinforcing and detoxifying effect on the liver and kidneys, helps us unwind, relieves stress, and brings a great sense of well-being”.
As it’s new name suggests Seraphinite is believed to resonate strongly with all levels of the angelic domain (Robert Simmons).
3.Malachite is a strongly protective stone. It’s vibration melts constrictive energy patterns and brings calm and emotional balance. It can help you to discover your inner strength, overcome difficulty and the bring you the confidence to be yourself, and express your inner power. Malachite is also believed to strengthen the Liver and aid detoxification (Michael Gienger).
4.Green Fluorite harmonises the heart with the mind, helping our thoughts, words and actions become aligned to heart energy (Naisha Ahsian). It can cleanse and heal the heart chakra (Robert Simmons), is good for cleansing the chakras and helps mild emotional upsets (Philip Permutt).
5.Chrysoprase has a general “feel better” energy, thats supports cleansing and detoxification, bringing calm, and helping you sleep more deeply (Simon and Sue Lilly). As well as supporting physical detoxification, Chrysoprase can help detox unwelcome thoughts and emotions. It helps you deal with oppressive images or recurrent nightmares (Michael Gienger). Naisha Ahsian writes (beautifully as ever)
“ Chrysoprase reminds one of sunlight falling through fresh, new spring leaves. It carries an energy of growth and ripening promise”.
I hope your Spring is full of joy and beautiful memory making.
With Love and Crystal Blessings
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Is your child being bullied? Or would you like to make sure your child isn’t bullied? I want to shine a light on the amazing work of my friend Gemma Hills in supporting families through bullying.
This guest post is written by the lovely Gemma Hills AKA The Anti-Bullying Mum. After her own daughter was bullied, she has become passionate about helping other families through this heartbreaking situation.
How To Get The School To Help
Why aren’t the school doing more?
What is the biggest complaint I hear from parents?
The school haven’t stopped the bullying.
It’s always an interesting one because some schools actually don’t do enough while others are doing everything within their power.
Sometimes we are so caught up in our fear and anxiety over what has happened that we aren’t seeing the situation as clearly as we could.
Is your child’s school doing everything they can and are you being realistic with what you’re expecting?
We want action when our kids are being bullied. We want the child who’s bullying to be taught a lesson, we want our child protected and we want the teacher to keep the closest eye on the situation so s/he notices any little thing that happens.
But, are we being realistic?
Knowing what you can expect from a school is crucial.
You can expect a school to:
•Have an anti-bullying policy and follow it. (Also known as a behaviour policy).
•Increase supervision if bullying is occurring at low supervision times ie in the hallways or at playtime.
•Have an adult your child is comfortable talking to on hand to help them.
•Log all incidents of bullying.
•Monitor and limit the contact between your child and the bully.
However, it takes three members to make bullying stop. The school, the parents and the child. (So often I’m asked why I let the bully and their family off scot-free.
My answer is always “you can’t change others you can only change how you respond to them”.
You can waste as much energy as you like mulling over what the family of the bully should or shouldn’t be doing but ultimately all it will do is leave you feeling frustrated and exhausted.
Instead focus your energy on what you can do. The school can do all they can but without you and your child taking action as well it’s likely the bullying will continue. It’s not realistic to expect a teacher to notice every interaction between his or her class. Your child needs to know how to report incidences in a way that they are comfortable with so the teacher can take action.
To make sure you’re doing everything you can, look at integrating confidence building into your everyday lives, have coping strategies in place (does your child know who they can go to for help? Or how to manage their anxiety? Have you helped them plan how they feel most comfortable dealing with the bully, seeking help, keeping themselves safe?)
4 Ways for Your Child to protect Themselves:
1. Know who to go to when they need help.
2. Don’t leave themselves vulnerable by playing alone or out of sight of the teacher.
3. Understand they do not need to be friends with everyone – I so often hear of kids trying to please the bully and be their friend in hope of making it stop. If this is the case for your child it may be a sign they need help working on their self-esteem.
4. Ask themselves if what’s being said is true. The most considerable damage is on the inside where it can’t be seen. The most effective way for your child to protect themselves from the impact of words is to stop and question everything that is being said to them.
Every school has a duty of care to their pupils. They are required to keep them safe. If they aren’t doing that and if you’ve already implemented all of the above then you have every right to complain. Schools are organisations and as with every organisation there is a complaints procedure.
Don’t shy away from speaking out. Your child is following your example. You want them to see you speaking up for what’s right, being assertive not aggressive. Following the complaints procedure and not being intimidated by others. Asking for help and confidently persevering until you get it. Show your child what it looks like to stand up for yourself and ask for help.
Your first port of call must always be the class teacher. If you try to jump to the next person in line you’ll almost always be sent back to the beginning. It’s like playing a game of snakes and ladders! If you have no joy with the teacher move on to the headteacher. Most cases of bullying are resolved within the school but if not then you can write to the school governors and ask for their intervention. Don’t be fearful of talking with your local police if you’re unsure if they could be involved. Certainly don’t hesitate to ask your GP for support if you feel they could help. Funding is low but it’s still worth asking. The message here is try not to be fearful.
Step up, speak out and get the help you need.
If you’d like to know more click here for The Anti-Bullying Mum website
I hope you have found this helpful and insightful
With Love and Crystal Blessings
10 Thoughtful Alternative Christmas Gift Ideas
Do you want something more thoughtful and alternative than a boxed beauty set to give your loved ones this Christmas?
I’ve gathered a selection of beautiful, alternative, natural or spiritual Christmas Gifts all online right here, to save you from fighting the crowds.
- An alternative gift that will be used and appreciated is a Home Blessing Kit. To keep the energy of your home clean and bright and support your hearth to be a welcoming, nurturing space.
This lovely Home Blessing Kit contains herbs for cleansing and blessing, a shell in which to burn the herbs, a feather to move the smoke where it is needed, a sweetgrass braid and some lovely incense.
Many cultures consider certain plants to be sacred, and to have special properties that can help us.
This Home Blessing Kit contains dried white sage (salvia apiana) – a plant which is particularly good at clearing negative energies, and sweetgrass – with a divine scent that brings a beautiful, positive energy.
Cleansing with sacred herbs is both a practical and sacred ritual, combining the energies of the 4 daughters of beauty or the 4 elements.
The plant represents the Earth element. Included is both a 25g bag of leaves and a bundle tied into a smudge stick with cotton thread. The leaves, or the bundle, are placed in the Abalone Shell. This a very pretty shell with flashes of rainbow colour, which represents the Water element. They are then burned, and transformed into cleansing smoke. This represents the Fire element. The smoke itself, and the Wild Turkey feather represent the element air.
May your hearth be clear and bright, and filled with many blessings.
Sue Weaver, the creator of this kit is my Crystal Teacher and has over 25 years experience in Crystal Healing. To read more about Sue Weaver’s method for smudging her home click here
Cost: For a Home Blessing Kit is £19 Or Small Home Blessing Kit £9 (25g white sage OR white sage bundle, abalone shell, wild turkey feather) Click Here For Sue Weavers Crystals Facebook Page To Order
2. For an alternative to High Street mass produced jewellery, handmade Crystal Jewellery from Iris Bluebird
Sparkle and shine this Christmas, with Natural Clear Quartz Crystals on a hand twisted White and Ice Blue thread.
Clear Quartz is also known as the “master crystal” as it can be programmed to bring a desired outcome. Try meditating with these Quartz Crystals. Focus your attention on achieving your goal, then wear the Crystals daily. Quartz lifts your energy, brings clarity of thought and purpose (Ahsian 2005).
£18 plus postage. Last Order Date before Christmas is 20th December. Click Here To Order
3. Gorgeous Goddess Art , the perfect alternative gift for the Goddess in your life. This would make a lovely addition to your altar.
Enter the Woman – this fertility goddess is one of a series of mini-canvasses inspired by the divine feminine.
£19.50 Last order date before xmas: Tuesday 20th December Click Here To Order
4. Infuse your home with beautiful Christmassy scents using hand crafted Beeswax and Soy Wax Melts from Bumble and Bean. Scent evokes memories, so this alternative gift will be always be remembered.
Christmas fragrances for wax melts and wax melts gift sets are Christmas Pudding, Cranberry Delight, Frosted Pinecones, Jack Frost, Mulled Wine, Orange Pomander, Oriental Fig and Snow Angel.
Last order date in the U.K is 19th December. Click here for Bumble and Beans Facebook page, and message Karen to order online.
5. A Winter Spice Herbal Tea set would make a perfect alternative gift for any health conscious herbal tea lover. Thea, owner of Nurture Mama has a BSc in Herbal Medicine and has an ETSY store filled with gorgeous nurturing treats. These include a New Mama Gift Box, Soothe and Calm Rescue Mist (I’ve just bought this), Happy Room Mist and more.
1x pure cobalt blue tea cup
1x Winter Spice tea 30g
1x Tea Infuser Ball
Gift wrapped with beautiful herb illustrated tissue paper and natural brown paper.
Last order date before Xmas is 14th December. Click here for Nurture Mamas store
6. Everyone needs a Beautiful Calendar to plan the year ahead. My favourite is always Spiritual Artist’s Annie b.’s .
Annie b.’s beautiful ‘ Art from the Heart ‘Calendar for 2017 is now available. Each month has a different image and positive affirmation for you to enjoy, and it makes a perfect gift for Christmas.
I like to cut out and frame the pictures afterwards…
£12.99 plus postage Click Here To Order
7. Crystal Bath Salts. Everyone loves a long hot soak in the bath. Adding Crystal Bath Salts that have been charged in a Crystal Grid = heaven for any worn out body. Lovingly created by the wonderful BeeBee of Crystal Dreams.
100% natural, Himalayan Bath Salt, Epsom Salts, Bicarbonate of Soda, Rose Petals, Crystals (Rose Quartz & Amethyst), and the most divine, 100% pure Lavender Essential Oil or 100% natural, Himalayan Bath Salt, Epsom Salts, Bicarbonate of Soda, Rose Petals, Crystals (Rose Quartz & Amethyst), and the most divine, 100% pure Egyptian Rose Oil <3. These are charged inside a gorgeous grid of Rose Quartz and beautiful Roses
Small jar: 430 grams (net weight 220 grams approx) £8
Large jar: 1.1kg (net weight 700 grams approx) £20
Last order date before Xmas is 20th December Click Here To Buy
8. A Gorgeous Fairy book. Fairies are most definitely for grownups too. This would make an alternative and well loved gift for adults and children alike.
Glitter and Earth: Tales of Magic and Wonder is a contemporary, quirky and original fairy book.
The 20 illustrations are accompanied by short stories/poems that open the door to a world of wonder.
Have you ever wondered why the sock fairy steals your socks? Or who the tooth fairy really is?
This is your chance to meet some elusive fairies and learn a little about them.
Jacqueline has said she will sign copies if you message her,and offer free shipping if you use the code Irisbluebird on ordering. Click here to order
Sabda Reiki is a non-intrusive, relaxing and gentle treatment suitable for everyone.
Sabda means Sound and Reiki means Universal Life Force Energy. These two healing modalities come together in the form of tuning forks and chime pipes, whilst incorporating the Reiki healing symbols, giving the recipient a powerful but gentle treatment of Sound and Reiki healing.
This set of four tuning forks consist of Cho Ku Rei, Sei He Ki, Hon Sha Ze Sho Nen and Dai Ko Myo. They are suitable for anyone to use and we’ve found these to be really popular with children too! They love to play them and listen to the tones. Our dogs, Bramble and Holly love them too and are always up for a bit of a treatment and relaxation time!
We have found those attuned to Reiki connect on a deeper level with these tuning forks, and we have Reiki Practitioners as well as other therapists using them with fantastic results.
I can confirm that children really do love these- my younger two love giving me “healing” with ours.
Set of four Sabda Reiki tuning forks, mallet, pouch and explanation cards £120.00 plus £2.50 postage UK only
One tuning fork (please state which one you would like) pouch, rubber striker and explanation card £35.00 plus £1.99 postage UK only
Last order date before Christmas Friday 16th December 2016 Click Here To Order
I hope you’ve found plenty of inspiration for your Christmas Gift buying. All of these gifts support small businesses, and are created with so much love and care.
I will be sharing this with everyone in the hope they will buy something for me from this list! Please share with everyone who you think would appreciate any of these gorgeous gifts (or buy them for you).
Lots of Love and Crystal Blessings
10 Magical Christmas Gifts for Children.
We all want to make Christmas magical for our children. Often Xmas brings way too much stress and anxiety, about what to buy, and what to suggest to our lovely family members to buy for them.
If you are a conscious shopper, and love Green, Alternative, Natural, Ethical, Handmade and Spiritual gifts, you know that these aren’t always available on your average High Street.
It is harder for family members who are used to High Street shopping to find such gifts. I want to make this easy for all, so I’ve searched far and wide, to create a list of delightfully different gifts that will be loved, and appreciated by both children and parents alike. Almost all these ideas support small family businesses in the UK.
1. Play Silks. Play Silks are beautiful, versatile and provide hours of open ended play. I have a set of custom dyed Seasonal Silks that I use for our Season Table from the talented Sarah of Arwen makes. Her most popular design is her Rainbow Gradient Silk, and it’s easy to see why. Last ordering dates for the UK is the End of November. Click here for Arwen Makes Store
2. An Amber and Crystal necklace, anklet or bracelet. Amber has a gorgeous energy for children, and it can be combined with Crystals that bring a myriad of benefits. There are crystals for confidence, concentration, soothing and calming, nightmares and protection and more. I have a guide called “Which Crystal Shall I choose?” that can help you create your own individual piece, or a section of ready made designs in my shop.
3. Custom made Clothing. My children all have their individual styles, and I like to buy them good quality handmade clothing that they love to wear. Our favourite maker is Liz from Dark Star Designs. She has a vast selection of fabric to choose from – my children especially love her Toothless fabric. You can message her with your requests – she always has something that is perfect. Plus she has lots of ready to go clothing if you need it fast. Click here for Dark Star Designs Store
4. A Story that will be treasured. My children love Annie B’s gorgeously illustrated book “The Hare and The Wise Old Apple Tree” . A heart warming story of how an old apple tree befriends a lonely, sad hare, and helps him see that things are always changing and that having an open heart and gratitude really can make life beautiful. Last order date before Christmas is December 20th, and the price is £7.99 Click Here To Order
5. A membership or a day out. Most families are overwhelmed with physical “stuff” and struggle to find spare money for days out. A membership to the National Trust, or a local attraction, would give the family many hours of pleasure and memories to be treasured. We are so lucky to have both the Eden Project and the Lost Gardens of Heligan on our doorstep, and have enjoyed many happy days out there.
6. A fairy door. We all love a little bit of magic in our lives. Imagine the excitement of having real fairies living in your house or garden. A beautiful maker and artist who makes bespoke fairy doors is Sarah Gordon. She sells through a Facebook group called Gorgeous Grids (she also makes Crystal grid bases), just click here to request to join. Order by early December for yours to arrive before Xmas
7. A garden in a box. Growing food or flowers with young children is hugely rewarding. One of my children doesn’t eat fruit or vegetables, but will happily munch peas or strawberries that we have grown. Often young families are full of intention about doing this but short on time. So a garden in a box- that arrives all ready to plant in your garden is a truly wonderful gift. I love Rocket Gardens boxes.
8. A Grimm’s Rainbow. No natural/alternative family home is complete without one of these beauties. They’re used as tunnels, animal and pokemon homes, stacked in amazingly creative ways and more by my children. And they last forever. Ours is from Myriad https://www.myriadonline.co.uk/product/rainbow-tunnel/
9. An aromatherapy diffuser. It might sound boring- but it isn’t! My children LOVE ours- it changes colour and they simply won’t go to sleep without it. I add Lavender and Roman Chamomile essential oils to ours to help us all sleep. Neal’s Yard make gorgeous ones- Jen a Neal’s Yard Independent Consultant recommends the Soto Aroma Diffuser – which acts as a mini humidifier too. These cost £50 and the last date for Christmas orders is December 14th. You can order with Jen by clicking here .
10. A Crystal Angel. Having a beautiful Crystal Angel to watch over your child as they sleep, is a really lovely addition to their bedroom. My favourite places to buy Crystals – where I know they always of exceptional quality and energy- are Crystal Dreams and Heaven and Earth crystals.
Lots of Love and Happy Christmas Shopping!!
8 tips for surviving sleep deprivation.
Sleep deprivation is a killer. You feel awful, look worse, have no patience, and it can drain the joy from your life.
I don’t think I’ve had a full nights sleep in over 9 years. I had awful pregnancy insomnia with my firstborn – who is nearly 9 (eek where did that time go?!).
I’ve co-slept with, and breastfed all my babies – my younger 3 all had lip ties which meant they could only feed laying down. This meant they mostly fed at night.
So, I’ve 9 years practice in survival.
Here’s what gets me through.
1. Keeping hydrated. I know, it’s a bit boring. But being dehydrated makes you feel dizzy, lightheaded and weak. Drinking plenty really helps. Have a bottle of water you can carry around to remind you.
2. Micro-sleeps. Sometimes, even with 4 young children there are moments of calm. Yes they are rare, but they happen. Use them! My children do not like seeing me asleep. But, if they’re all busy, I can put a blanket over my face -they don’t notice that for some reason, and catch a few zzzzzs. Note- I baby proofed my home long ago – always do that first.
3. Have a shower. Water is so restorative. Showers are full of negative ions, which have been found to help fatigue. Plus, it feels good to be clean. Have a lovely zingy aromatherapy shower gel to uplift you even more.
4. Drop your standards. If you’re too tired to tidy up, then don’t. And be kind to yourself. Your mental well being is far more important than a tidy house. If you can’t bear to sit in the mess, get a big broom, sweep everything into a corner and cover it up with a rug. This isn’t forever.
5. If you have the energy- get outside. Even if it’s just in your garden, or your back door step. Take ten deep breaths. Notice how good breathing deeply feels. It will also energise you.
6. If you’ve got friends and family, then invite them round. Nothing passes the time better than good company. Can they come over and help you get out the house, to the park, the woods, a cafe?
7. Food. Sleep deprivation makes you hungry. Try and remember to eat regularly. If you forget, then your body will crave the most energy high food possible- for me this was cake. I love cake (and would never say don’t eat cake!) but I ate too much, and in the long term this isn’t healthy.
8. Crystals – my favourite Crystals for energising me are
Citrine– it’s golden ray naturally uplifts and boosts your energy and mood,
Green Aventurine– has a happy, optimistic feel good energy,
Carnelian– gives you the motivation to get up and moving ,
Amethyst– has a mind calming energy- really helpful for that “wired” feeling,
Red Jasper – has a real physically supportive energy, strong and supportive,
Garnet– a really excellent Root Chakra stone that stimulates and regenerates your physical body,
Baltic Amber and it’s sunshine energy will always make you feel better.
I hope some of these ideas help you. You will get through the day, you always have, just like I did.
Lots of love
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Whilst I believe gemstones, Amber and Hazelwood to be amazing and powerful, my jewellery should not be considered as a substitute for conventional medicine. If you have any kind of health issue, you should consult your doctor. I would like to advise that when I talk about, post or give advice relating to the healing properties of crystals and stones, this is my own personal beliefs and the results of my research. Although a crystal or stone is alleged to have one or more healing properties, either physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, it does not mean that you will definitely experience or benefit from these properties. Any information you receive, whether orally, in written form or electronically relating to crystals and stones purchased from Iris Bluebird, should be received and understood in the above context.
Also please always make sure to keep small objects and Crystals out of reach from babies and young children.
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How to keep the energy clean in your living area
One question I am often asked is how to keep the energy light in your living area.
Ideally, the first thing you would do, is keep the area clutter free, as clutter does stop the energy flowing. But I’m a home educating mother of four.
Realistically, although I love clear and minimalist looking spaces, my children aren’t that bothered. They need and enjoy their wide range of toys. And I’m too busy/not that inclined enough to keep tidying.
Clean is also good. I try, I really do, and I have spurts where I clean, and dust and hoover. Other times I get my husband to. But the next day it is a mess again.
So after decluttering and cleaning (or not), the fun can begin.
My favourite way is firstly to smudge. I use Californian White Sage, though you can use local dried herbs to do this. I light it, wait for it to smoke, hold an Abalone shell underneath, and waft the smoke around the room with a big feather I bought from a Shamen. My children love to help with this too. Make sure you waft the smoke into all the dark corners, and nooks and crannies.
Then, I put 2 sets of 3 clear quartz points, in two different parts of the room, pointing into the room. Even better would be to use large generator points, but they’re expensive and this is an affordable alternative. These should be cleansed at least weekly.
This keeps the energy in our Living Space clean and clear. The next time I find my self a bit grumpy, stressy and impatient with the children, I repeat.
Please post on my Facebook page if you have any questions or comments about this.
Much Love and Crystal Blessings
PS Have you downloaded my Free E-Book How To Use Crystals To Help Your Child And You?
Meditation and Children
I was recently asked about my approach to meditation with my children.
I’d love to be able to say that we all sit together in silence and meditate beautifully daily. But we don’t!!
We’re a very typical family, 3 crazy wild boys age 8, 5 and 4, and 1 crazy wild toddler girl. They LOVE gaming, Minecraft, Terraria, Skylanders, Plants Vs Zombies etc etc. They love TV too, anything on Cartoon Network, Star wars, or Hero’s and Villains type themes. (We do go out sometimes too- just trying to show that we aren’t all completely woo).
They all very much have their own minds, and if I try to show or tell them something that doesn’t interest them, they just outright ignore me.
So, if I decided that we should all sit and meditate and turned everything off, it would not go down well.
Pretty understandable really, if my husband did that to me I wouldn’t be happy either.
Children and Beliefs
I want all my children to develop their own interests and beliefs, and not be unduly influenced by mine. They know I love Crystals, and work with them, I believe in Angels and Fairies, and that I meditate. They know other people don’t. And they know thats completely cool.
They all love having Crystal healing treatments, when they’re in the mood for them.
A couple of years ago, we were out in the woods, when I noticed my eldest Fintan was sitting cross legged, with his eyes closed. When he had got up again, I asked him what he was doing, and he said he was meditating. He does this now most of the time when we are somewhere peaceful and beautiful. He also meditates in the garden when there’s a full moon.
I never suggested or encouraged meditation to him. All I can think of is that he got the idea from watching the TV series Avatar:The last Airbender. A completely awesome series with a spiritual theme, I would highly recommend your family watching. He loved it and watched each episode back to back for about 3 days. Then again a few months later.
When I’ve chatted to him about meditating, he said he does it to bring peace to his mind. He just tries to clear his mind of thoughts. He said he’s only managed to do this once. He doesn’t like guided meditations (the opposite of me- I love them). He manages to sit for up to around 5 minutes at a time. He’s normally disturbed by one of the other children, but says he doesn’t mind this.
My 5 year old finds it hard to switch off at night time, and sometimes enjoys watching/ listening to a guided meditation on Youtube. But not every night.
I believe strongly that a child will only choose to meditate if it is something that interests them, and that they decide themself to do. My role as a mother is to create space and opportunity for them to do this, and not put them off by getting too excited about it.
I would love to hear about your family life and your approach to meditation.
With much Love and Crystal Blessings
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