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Ten Tips For A Smoother Bedtime With Young Children.

Ten tips for a smoother bedtime with young children.

Bedtime can be one of the most stressful times of day.  Everyone is tired, your children may all be needing a lot of connection from you,  at the same time, and your well of patience has run dry.

Combining the needs of different age ranges, from little babies, to manic bouncing toddlers, to older children, who have patiently been waiting for a little one on one time with you is really tough.

Routines have never worked for my family.  I remember consulting those sleep charts with my eldest, wondering why he needed at least 2 hours less than the specified amounts.  He’s 9 now and still needs a lot less than the others.  Any time I tried, what I thought would be a really lovely routine, it just caused me and my son a whole lot of stress.  I didn’t even attempt it with my younger ones.  (I’ve always been secretly jealous of those who nail this though.)

I’ve muddled through, learning so much along the way, and now our bedtimes are actually really rather lovely and enjoyable for us all. 

 

 

Here’s my 10 practical tips that have helped me through the tough times.

1. Accept that life with young children is messy.  They cry, they shout, they fight, they embarrass you in public.  Releasing the need to make everything perfect is so freeing, and often once you do this, everything clicks into place.

2.  Be flexible, think outside the box.  If they don’t want to put their PJs on, do they really need to? If they’re clearly really tired but don’t want to go to bed, would they enjoy going for a drive? Often this will relax them enough to fall asleep in the car then you can carry them to bed

3.  Be playful and inventive.   If they don’t want to brush their teeth can you make it into a game?  Searching for their favourite characters in their mouth was always popular when mine were younger.  Chewable brushes helped as a last resort when they couldn’t be tempted.  We often brush our children’s teeth whilst they’re watching TV.  We never forced them, and now they are all very happy and willing to brush their teeth.

4.  Fill your metaphorical cup.  Take 5 minutes (or longer if you can), to meditate, do Yoga, deep breaths, a Crystal layout, make your own Crystal Aura spray with calming essential oils and spritz it all over you, walk barefoot in the garden, anything that works to calm and relax you, before bedtime.  Make sure you’ve had a snack and a drink too, to avoid any Hangry parent tantrums.

5. If you have a baby, try baby wearing.  I’ve spent many an evening, with a baby strapped on my front, a toddler on my back, and reading a story to older ones, whilst bouncing up and down.  Make sure you take a selfie to remind yourself how awesome you are. 

6.  Go with the flow, and constantly adapt to changing needs.  There’s a tricky age somewhere between 1 and 3 years, where  daytime napping goes crazy.  If they nap in the day, then they don’t sleep until midnight, if they don’t they have meltdowns all afternoon.  It’s a difficult time. It does get better, it really does, but navigating that time with an air of acceptance makes it so much easier. Self-care is so important at these times.

7.  Get the crazy manic hour done before you get too tired.  My children get a wild burst of energy shortly before they get tired.  This can be so much fun, and a really lovely way to connect in the evenings, as long as you aren’t exhausted.  Cushion fights, jumping on the trampoline, playful wrestling, running races (not against each other- that always ends in tears, I use my phone stop watch and they try and beat their personal best)

8.  Prepare for transitions.  Some children find transitions really hard.  The trick is to always have something to look forward to.  Instead saying it’s time for bed, try lets go and read a story (always good to have a new exciting one from the library to look forward to), or lets light a bedtime candle, have a Massage, or Crystal healing.  Basically anything involving you being with them.

9.  Talk with them about bedtimes.  What would they like to do before they go to bed.  How can you make it more enjoyable for you both?

10.  Create a relaxing environment in the bedroom.  My children all have their own little Crystal Angels by their beds, Dream Catchers, herbal pillows, a calming Crystal Grid.  I’ve mastered the art of reading whilst simultaneously giving mini- foot massages with Lavender Oil.

I hope you’ve found some of these ideas helpful.  I’d love to hear yours too, I’m always learning!!

With Love and Crystal Blessings

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Which Crystals Support Your Spring Detox

Yay it’s March and I’ve felt the urge to do a Spring detox.

I know – I’ve read all the pros and cons, yes the Liver and the Kidneys are what detox the body, and you don’t “need” to detox.  But I like to try these things and find out how “I” actually feel, rather than take anyones word for it.

Looking back, when I had just two children, I was a lot healthier and more active.  I juiced everyday, ate healthily and made banana and almond milk smoothies when I was hungry.  Two children later, and cooking balanced meals was way too much for me.  Some days all I could manage to make myself was super noodles with grated cheese on top!! 

Last year I had my first glass of red wine for years.  And I loved it.  Maybe a bit too much.  I got myself into a habit of drinking a couple of glasses every night that my husband was off work, and watching my favourite trashy TV programmes to unwind.  The exhaustion from sleepless nights with babies and young children, slowly became feeling knackered all the time with a Red Wine headache. Oops!!  

So, being an all or nothing type person, I decided to do Jason Vale’s 28 day Juice Challenge.  I’ve got a brilliant juicer already, so no big investment.  Buying the ingredients has been less than what we’ve been spending on food anyway.  

Making the juices first thing in the morning, on an empty stomach with children wanting sandwiches and toast (they never stop eating), to take them to the loo, find their favourite toy, solve a computer problem, look at what they’ve just made, has been a challenge I’ll admit. 

But later in the day when I’m feeling more balanced, it’s a cinch – I prepare the fruit and veg – and they juice them for me (they love it).  I have a few flasks and can prepare a couple ahead of time which makes the rest of the day easy.

I had one moment where I nearly jacked it all in, and ran down the hill to get some Fish and Chips, but my husband bravely convinced me not to.  It’s also hard not to eat stray crisps and uneaten slices of soggy Pizza left around by the children.  Some times I feel light headed and hungry, but I feel fine after the next juice.

Today is day 7, and overall I feel pretty good.  Yesterday I had an amazing day with the children.  I was more present, mindful of my thoughts and actions – less irritable and snappy, and had more energy.  I even managed to actually take in a few pages of a book when they’d gone to bed – normally I read the same line over and over again till I give up.  

I’m not missing wine or coffee, but I’d love a chunk of bread and butter dipped in a butternut squash soup right now.  I’m really looking forward to that when I’m done.

I’m hoping that this plan will help me feel healthier, more energetic and make better food choices – like I always used to.  

Crystals To Support Your Spring Detox

Did you know there are Crystals that encompass the energy of Spring and can support your Spring detox?

Green Moss Agate, Jade, Green Aventurine, Bloodstone, Peridot.

My favourites are 

Peridot –  this has a bouncy, happy energy – that reminds me of the Zesty-ness of a of a fresh ripe Lime.  It energises you and brings the Spring Sunshine into your life .  Michael Gienger writes Olivine (Peridot) has a strong detoxifying effect and stimulates the liver, it enhances the liver and gallbladder.  

Green Aventurine – the Ultimate Spring Stone. It brings you all the joyful, hope-filled, exciting feelings of Spring.  I love Naisha Ahsian’s words

“ Green Aventurine’s essence is that of a spring bursting forth after a long dark Winter”

Doesn’t that bring you just the most beautiful imagery?

Jade – has a friendly, playful energy- like that of the most popular boy in your School.  Being green it embodies all the essence of Spring- joy, luck, happiness, and abundance. 

Bloodstone- has quite a heavy grounding energy. But it helps you get moving and get things done. It is known as a great Purifier, both physically and energetically, it is strengthening and fortifying (Naisha Ahsian), and so a great accompaniment to your Spring detox.

Green Moss Agate – one of my favourites.  All the most beautiful shades of Green, it has a gently grounding energy, that helps you connect to Nature and being outside in our beautiful Earth. It has a peaceful, stabilising energy (Naisha Ahsian) that can bring you gentle support through any crazy “hangry” moments. 

I hope Spring brings you abundant joy and laughter.

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Strawberry Quartz and why you need this!

Strawberry Quartz 

Strawberry Quartz is a member of the Quartz family, with inclusions that give it a pink colouration

Not to be confused with the artificial Cherry Quartz, Strawberry Quartz is a naturally occurring stone, that has been found in found in Mexico, Africa and Kazakhstan.

It ranges from pale pink, Strawberry Pink to Raspberry Pink.  Some are milky in appearance with dark veins, others are more sparkly from the inclusions of Iron Oxides.

Strawberry Quartz

There is very little written about Strawberry Quartz metaphysically.  So my wonderful Crystal friends – have all generously shared their attunements with me, so I can share with you.  I have included their findings unedited, I don’t want to take away any of the intended meaning.  So, this is the raw and true personal experiences of my lovely fellow Crystal students. 

Strawberry Quartz Attunement Experiences 

My experience working with Strawberry Quartz was it had a beautiful joyful and loving energy.  I saw lots of small woodland animals, and received the words “we just want you to have fun”. For me, it teaches us to not take everything so seriously, and to go with the joyful flow and dance of life.

I felt a strong connection with Harvest and Ceres – the Roman Goddess of Agriculture and Abundance.  Ceres is also connected to fertility and Motherly relationships. I had a vision of dancing ecstatically in a Cornfield as the sun sets, turning everything golden, I felt totally blissful.  During the time I worked with Strawberry Quartz, I experienced a huge healing in a close family relationship, that has given me so much pain and  angst over many years. 

Statue of Ceres ( greek Demeter ) ancient roman goddess in Stibbert Gardens in Florence, Tuscany

I also felt a connection with Heaven and felt myself fill with bright white light when I held it over my Crown Chakra.

Jenn found the energy of Strawberry Quartz very loving, supportive, grounding, and softer than clear Quartz.  It is reassuring and very helpful for self love as well as compassion for others. Helpful with self acceptance as you are, and release of judgement.  

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Jac experienced Strawberry Quartz as a gentle heart healer with an incredibly light, soft touch. Airy and soothing.

Emotionally..lightening a heavy heart, lifting pain up and away like a stain being lifted up and out of a soiled fabric.like a subtle breeze gently wafting through a chiffon curtain.

Physically.. soothing, calming, gentle action like the gentle swing of a hammock.

Mentally..lifting off stress with a light singing whisper, soft focus. Healing without trauma, just carried away by the breeze  leaving no scar.

Spiritually..as above, helium healing. The soft loving gentle touch of a Doe’s nose. Feather light lifting up and away of pain and things that no longer serve done with fingers of air.  I wouldn’t give it to a Liberian to wear for any period of time cos they’d just float off in their own wonderful cloud of airy vagueness.  Jacqueline Watson-moul.

Helen found Strawberry quartz has the softness of the Divine Feminine,  bringing her wisdom.  It feels sacred,  the milky  crystals with the darker threads have that Grounding quality,  “I will soothe you,  hold you,  comfort.  I will bring you back into your body,  into the vessel of the divine feminine.”  Gentle wholeness,  soft tranquility.  

The sparkly Crystals have a higher vibrations for me.  My sparks lift and transform,  breaking up heavy sense energies.  I filter into every part of you,  stimulating the heart,  animator of life force…. Filled with the energy of the cosmos… Expanding the wisdom of the heart  

I have the milky and more sparkly,  I find them quite different yet with the same thread of gentle loving energy.  

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Cally found Strawberry Quartz brought a safe reassuring feeling of “hearing my regular breath and heart beating strongly.  Reassuring and relaxing. Heart beat speeded up and became irregular, but still felt confident to trust the stone, trust my heart, trust universe.  Dark earthy knowledge the heartbeat is strong and to trust in universe – take time and meditate. After putting down the stone I felt inspired to use it again later to meditate, knowing it would be a friend to me”. 

Another attunement with Strawberry Quartz felt calming, sinking down into the earth and deep inside myself, again being encouraged to take ‘time out’ to heal, to snuggle down and be loved. 

Sleeping with Strawberry Quartz, I experienced vivid dreams and waking remembering them clearly. They seemed so real, I woke up feeling angry, irritated and not knowing what to do, or why I couldn’t be understood. They just ‘didn’t get it’.

Key words for Strawberry Quartz

Strong, stable, grounding, trusting. Using Earth energies to comfort, reassure and heal.  Also confusing, showing past anxieties.

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Another lovely member of our group – Jan, didn’t have her notes but found me some published writing about Strawberry Quartz. 

Cassandra Eason author of The Complete Crystal Bible  -found Strawberry Quartz to be 

“A gentle comforting crystal associated with the Mother Goddess. Good for mothers of large families to enjoy the happy special moments, comforting when away from home. For self- nurturing after a prolonged period of being there for everyone else.  Increases self- esteem for those who come from over-critical families.”

Well that explains some of why I love it so much!!

Sue Weaver our esteemed Crystal Teacher who is leading and guiding us on our discovery of the wonders of Crystals writes 

Strawberry Quartz is one of my favourite crystals, yet it is rarely written about. It has always been included in the Cornwall School of Crystal Healing Diploma for its unique energies. It is a silvery-greyish pink! It often has grey to black markings, and is frequently confused with Rhodonite because of the colour similarity. The sheen is quite different, however, as is the energy frequency. Strawberry Quartz is quiet and unassuming. It has a gentle but deeply spiritual energy with a lovely mystical deep wisdom. I often think of nuns and monks – living a simple life of prayer and devotion. It is soothes the heart and mind and can help us to find peace and comfort in stillness and solitude. It can help us to be self-contained and settled in our physical bodies, and to find simple joy in the basic routine tasks of life. This is a wonderful stone for those who ‘want to be spiritual’ and resist being in the body, failing to understand that the physical is sacred too!
 
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I absolutely love hearing how others experience the energy of Crystals in different ways.  It depends hugely on who we are, what we are experiencing in our lives at that moment and what needs healing in our life.  As you can see we all had varying responses, though I feel there is a strong and consistent theme of love.

I find during attunements that I experience sensations in different parts of my body that the particular Crystal can help with, and the crystals can expose parts of my life that I need to give more attention.

Summarising all our experiences with Strawberry Quartz,- some key words and themes are

Fun, bliss, joy, gentle, loving, soothing, healing, uplifting, self-love, self-acceptance, self-nurturing, safe, reassuring. 

 

I hope you enjoyed reading about our shared experiences.

With Love and Crystal Blessings

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Crystals To Bring Back The Sunshine And Why You Need Them

Crystals to bring back the Sunshine

Disclaimer: Whilst I believe Crystals to be amazing and powerful, my jewellery should not be considered as a substitute for conventional medicine. If you have any kind of health issue, you should consult your doctor. I would like to advise that when I talk about, post or give advice relating to the healing properties of crystals and stones, these are my own personal beliefs and the results of my research. Although a crystal or stone is alleged to have one or more healing properties, either physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, it does not mean that you will definitely experience or benefit from these properties. 

So all the joyful celebrations of Yule, Hanukkah, Christmas and New Year are over and for those of you in the Northern Hemisphere the lack of daylight, sun and energy hits you hard.

Sunset in the wood in winter period

You feel sluggish, bloated and miserable (so do I). 

Remember those Summer days, when you open your back door and step into the Sunshine, your children happily play for hours in your beautifully landscaped garden whilst you sunbathe on a stylish cushioned lounger, you eat green salads al fresco, your tummy was flat, ok me neither…

But, the lack of light and warmth can really drag your mood down. 

Mini-Eggs are back in the shops (yay) but Spring and Easter Sunshine aren’t going to be here for eons. 

How can you survive this bleak and boring time?

You know that keeping active, getting outside in the middle of the day as much as poss all helps. 

But how about some fun Crystals to try?  

Here’s my favourite happy, energising, joy inspiring, mood lifting stones to bring back the sunshine into your life.

Amber is formed from fossilised organic natural resins from Ancient Forests. Imagine all the sunshine used by Trees to live and grow.  The life force energy of that Ancient Sunlight is literally preserved within Amber.  This gives Amber a “solar” quality, that energises, warms, and carries Light Energy

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Citrine is a form of Quartz, with it’s yellow colour coming from Iron impurities that become included in the atomic structure as it crystallises.  Most Citrine is actually heat treated Amethyst, but although I usually have snobbish thoughts about synthetically altered Crystals, the properties of this Citrine are so awesome it doesn’t matter to me.  It gives a warm and sunny Golden Ray energy, that  uplifts your mood, energises, bringing positivity, optimism, happiness and playfulness.  Just what we all need in the dreary Winter months.

Citrine

Sunstone is a Feldspar from the same family as Moonstone- with glittering orange-brown inclusions. It carries the “Solar Ray”, and energy of Ra, the Sun God (Ahsian 2007).  It’s glittering sunshine energy encourages our “sunny sides” to shine (Gienger 2015) and brings us the energy of action, optimism, warmth, self-worth, and happiness.  It connects us to our internal light,  raises our vibrations and lifting our mood.

Sunstone on a light background

Carnelian is a Chalcedony (from the Quartz family) that contains Iron. It has more of an Earthy energy than the Sunshine stones, but I’ve included it as it’s warming energy is just what we need at this time of year. It enhances your life-force energy – boosting your vitality, energising, strengthening and fortifying (Ahsian 2007).  

 

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Sunshine Stones

 

I’d love to hear any of your tips for getting through Winter. 

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How To Smudge Your Home

How To Smudge Your Home

My wonderful Crystal Teacher Sue Weaver has shared with me her method for smudging her home.  

There are many ways to smudge yourself and your home. I don’t believe that there is a single ‘right way’, but I have my way and I’ll share that with you.

I begin with cleaning on the physical level – a good tidy, dust, sweep, spit and polish, and a good crystal cleanse. I like to do this with windows and door open, whenever possible, and it is good to keep them open while you smudge if you can.

I begin by setting a clear, strong intent to clear any energies that do not belong in my home. I start upstairs, in the corner of the bathroom. I move around the room, using the feather to wave the smoke into nooks and crannies, paying particular attention to corners, all the time focussing on clearing and cleansing.

I then move to my bedroom and repeat, to the other bedrooms and then down the stairs. I move through the rooms downstairs, ending at the door.

Having completed the smudging, I go round again with sweetgrass. This herb smells divine and brings blessings into your home. It does not burn like sage, and you have to be patient and persevere. I will need lighting several times, but it is really worth it. You can complete by lighting an incense stick or two, to fill your home with fragrance. Flowers aren’t included, but I always bring fresh flower into my home. A home without flowers feels incomplete.

 

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8 Tips For Surviving Sleep Deprivation

8 tips for surviving sleep deprivation. 

Sleep deprivation is a killer.  You feel awful, look worse, have no patience, and it can drain the joy from your life.

I don’t think I’ve had a full nights sleep in over 9 years.  I had awful pregnancy insomnia with my firstborn – who is nearly 9 (eek where did that time go?!). 

I’ve co-slept with, and breastfed all my babies – my younger 3 all had lip ties which meant they could only feed laying down.  This meant they mostly fed at night.

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Tiredness has not been kind to my looks lol!

So, I’ve 9 years practice in survival.

Here’s what gets me through.

1. Keeping hydrated.  I know, it’s a bit boring.  But being dehydrated makes you feel dizzy, lightheaded and weak.  Drinking plenty really helps.  Have a bottle of water you can carry around to remind you. 

2. Micro-sleeps.  Sometimes, even with 4 young children there are moments of calm.  Yes they are rare, but they happen.  Use them!   My children do not like seeing me asleep.  But, if they’re all busy, I can put a blanket over my face  -they don’t notice that for some reason, and catch a few zzzzzs.  Note- I baby proofed my home long ago – always do that first.

3. Have a shower.  Water is so restorative.  Showers are full of negative ions, which have been found to help fatigue. Plus, it feels good to be clean. Have a lovely zingy aromatherapy shower gel to uplift you even more.

4. Drop your standards.  If you’re too tired to tidy up, then don’t.  And be kind to yourself.  Your mental well being is far more important than a tidy house.  If you can’t bear to sit in the mess, get a big broom, sweep everything into a corner and cover it up with a rug. This isn’t forever.

5. If you have the energy- get outside.  Even if it’s just in your garden, or your back door step.  Take ten deep breaths.  Notice how good breathing deeply feels.  It will also energise you.

6. If you’ve got friends and family, then invite them round.  Nothing passes the time better than good company.  Can they come over and help you get out the house, to the park, the woods, a cafe?

7. Food.  Sleep deprivation makes you hungry.  Try and remember to eat regularly.  If you forget, then your body will crave the most energy high food possible- for me this was cake.  I love cake (and would never say don’t eat cake!) but I ate too much, and in the long term this isn’t healthy.  

8. Crystals – my favourite Crystals for energising me are 

Citrine– it’s golden ray naturally uplifts and boosts your energy and mood, 

Green Aventurine– has a happy, optimistic feel good energy, 

 Carnelian– gives you the motivation to get up and moving , 

Amethyst– has a mind calming energy- really helpful for that “wired” feeling, 

Red Jasper – has a real physically supportive energy, strong and supportive, 

Garnet– a really excellent Root Chakra stone that stimulates and regenerates your physical body, 

Baltic Amber and it’s sunshine energy will always make you feel better. 

I hope some of these ideas help you.  You will get through the day, you always have, just like I did.

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Lots of love 

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How to keep the energy light and bright in your living area

How to keep the energy clean in your living area

 

One question I am often asked is how to keep the energy light in your living area.

Ideally, the first thing you would do, is keep the area clutter free, as clutter does stop the energy flowing.  But I’m a home educating mother of four.

Realistically, although I love clear and minimalist looking spaces, my children aren’t that bothered.  They need and enjoy their wide range of toys.  And I’m too busy/not that inclined enough to keep tidying.

Clean is also good.  I try, I really do, and I have spurts where I clean, and dust and hoover. Other times I get my husband to.   But the next day it is a mess again.

So after decluttering and cleaning (or not), the fun can begin.

My favourite way is firstly to smudge.  I use Californian White Sage, though you can use local dried herbs to do this.  I light it, wait for it to smoke, hold an Abalone shell underneath, and waft the smoke around the room with a big feather I bought from a Shamen.  My children love to help with this too.  Make sure you waft the smoke into all the dark corners, and nooks and crannies.

Then, I put 2 sets of 3 clear quartz points, in two different parts of the room, pointing into the room.  Even better would be to use large generator points, but they’re expensive and this is an affordable alternative.  These should be cleansed at least weekly.

This keeps the energy in our Living Space clean and clear.  The next time I find my self a bit grumpy, stressy and impatient with the children, I repeat.

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Rhodonite Love Series #4

Rhodonite

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Rhodonite

Rhodonite is another Pink Ray stone, which means it carries the energy of Divine Love.

I almost always pair it with Rhodochrosite, as the two work so harmoniously together.  Rhodochrosite does the work of helping you discover your lost and hidden gifts, whilst Rhodonite helps you to actually use them – for the good of all (Simmons and Ahsian 2007)

Lacking in Self-Worth?

In this way, Rhodonite helps give you a sense of purpose.  By doing whatever you do that can help others, you can increase your self value and worth.   For example, you may discover that you are an amazing listener.  You can use this skill to support friends and families, work on a helpline, or train as a counsellor.   It is a great stone to support learning and development (Ahsian 2007).  The sense of fulfilment and purpose you will get from this will hugely increase your self-worth. You will feel happier, and your heart will feel expansive and full of love.

It is a great stone to support learning and development (Ahsian 2007).  So, if you are feeling at a bit of a cross roads in life, not sure what your purpose is or what to do next, try working with Rhodonite.

Broken Hearted?

Rhodonite is also a good stone to use if you have a broken heart, either from loss of a relationship or friendship.

It can help you release any festering anger and resentment (that are almost certainly doing you more harm than the other person).  This is ideal if you’re caught up in plotting your revenge!!!

It can also facilitate mutual understanding, resolve conflicts and strengthen friendships (Gienger 2009).  This could be especially helpful if you are involved in a difficult break up with the father of your children.

Bad News?

Rhodonite can also be supportive if you feel panic or have had shocking news.  It’s gentle pink ray can assist with your emotional healing (Hall 2003)

No Energy?

And one more thing, Rhodonite is wonderful at supporting the flow of Chi through your body (Ahsian 2007). This means in everyday speak, that it can give your energy levels a much needed boost.

What do I do with it?

Ways you can work with Rhodonite include wearing it as jewellery, carrying around a tumble stone , making gem water (though should never be boiled), meditating whilst holding it.

I like to use intentions when I work with crystals. So think of what you would like to achieve and write it down, read this frequently whilst holding, wearing or sipping your gem water.

Sending you lots of heart healing love and Crystal Blessings

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Love Stones Series #1 Watermelon Tourmaline

Hello fellow Crystal Lover

We all need heart healing.  We all have wounds, buried deep down, or perhaps rawer and nearer the surface.  Working with crystals is a powerful way to begin to heal our emotional and spiritual pain.

To love and to feel loved has to be the most wonderful, warming and magical part of being human.

I thought it would be fun to write a mini series about Love Crystals for you.

Watermelon Tourmaline

A really special and outrageously beautiful love Crystal is Watermelon Tourmaline.

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Watermelon Tourmaline

Watermelon Tourmaline is Tourmaline that has pink in the middle and a green rind around the outside.

This is the perfect colour combo for activating, clearing and soothing the heart chakra.

The green ray heals emotional wounds stored in your heart, and the pink inspires the love to flow inside and out (Raphael 1985)

Watermelon Tourmaline vibrates with love, kindness and friendship.

It has a simply gorgeous calming energy that helps enhance patience (always useful for those of us with toddlers, or any family member really).

It’s pretty hard to get hold of, my one is itsy bitsy, but at least its portable and easy to hold.

Try holding or wearing it,  it will help you to take a deep and nourishing breath and easily find your heart centre. This connects you to the feeling of internal happiness and joy, no matter what’s going on around you!!

As always, I would LOVE to hear how you get on with it, if you’re lucky enough to have one at home, please show me a photo on my Facebook page!!

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How Not To Lose Your Shit

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I read a post on netmums a few days ago about when mums epicly “lost their shit”.

One mum simply answered that she never does that.  She was quickly accused of  polishing her halo.

Her reply was that she doesn’t lose her shit, as she remembers how it feels as a child to be on the receiving end.

I know that feeling too, we probably all do.

In-fact that’s probably just why we all do lose it from time to time.  Our children trigger in us, deep repressed feelings and memories.

That’s more than likely why our parents did too. There’s a long cycle of shit losing spanning back centuries.

So, how can we stop this cycle?

I think I’ve read every gentle parenting type book there is. But the most important thing I’ve noticed is that I don’t lose it when I’m ok.

That is when I’ve had enough sleep, I’ve eaten well, I’m hydrated, I’m relaxed, my needs are met, I’m happy.

Exactly the checklist we look for when our little one’s are melting down.

So, we need to show ourselves the same loving care as we do our children, in order to love and care for them in the best way we can.

You see how important it is?

When our children are tiny, there just doesn’t seem to be any time for self-care.

But there’s always something we can do.

Breathing is always a good place to start.

Try alternate nostril breathing,  it’s unbelievably calming.  I will do a video on this soon.

Or  throughout the day, whenever you can, spend a minute just focused on breathing in and out.  Really noticing each breath. Be aware of the tip of your nose.  Try breathing as gently as you can.

A 5 minute shower is such a normal, everyday activity. But, we always feel so much better, refreshed and energised afterwards.  Moving water is full of negative ions, which have been shown by studies to improve mood and reduce anger. So maybe, it’s more than just the luxury of feeling clean.

If you have a garden, get outside barefoot (or naked feet as my children say).  Feel the regulating and grounding energy of the earth. Earthing ( standing barefoot on rocks, grass, sand) can help to diffuse those pesky positive ions. Research has found that Earthing reduces stress hormones and promoting calmness.

As they get older and you have more time, try journalling.  There’s something really healing about blurting all your thoughts and feelings out onto paper.

I love listening to guided meditations, holding a crystal.  I do this as often as possible.

Rediscover what makes you you.  What do you love doing?  Do more of it!!

So, what crystals can help you feel calm and serene?

Sodalite is very calming for the mind, it allows you to detach from your stressful thoughts and view a situation from a more serene perspective (Ahsian 2005).

Amethyst  protects your energy from negativity.  Visualise a purple bubble of light all around you.  When everything around you is just a chaotic mess, you are safe in this purple light, calm, serene and balanced.  Amethyst is well known to help balance the crazy.   Holding it helps get rid of those hard to control angry raging emotions. 

Blue Lace Agate will cool and soothe any hot headedness or stress you are feeling, wearing it will make you feel positively blissful.

Lepidolite is my go to crystal for de-stressing and unwinding. It is a lithium based stone, that can help reduce unwelcome thoughts, perfect for when you feel anxious and can’t stop worrying.  It helps you find a strong emotional centre (Ahsian 2005).  Like a deep rooted Oak Tree, perfect for when there is turbulence all around you.

Rose Quartz is just heavenly to wear. It brings an expansive feeling of love and peace straight from your heart, to yourself and those around you. It is a soothing balm for the emotions. You need this stone all around your home, as well as on your person.

Yes, parenting and life is gloriously messy, in every possible way.  But by taking a lot of care of you, you can be the very best you, for your family.

With Love and Crystal Blessings

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